By Eleni Kalvou McDermott, Integrative Counsellor >
For many women going through life’s transitional stages, the idea of setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable, even guilt-inducing. We may have been taught to prioritise others’ needs above our own, to keep the peace, or to stretch ourselves thin. But boundaries are not about rejection—they are about protection, balance, and honouring your own worth.
What Boundaries Really Are
Boundaries are personal guidelines that define how you wish to be treated and how you engage with others. They are less about shutting people out and more about keeping yourself safe, authentic, and aligned with who you are becoming during this stage of change.
A healthy boundary is like an invisible framework: it protects your emotions, energy, time, and values—while still leaving space for deep and meaningful connection with others.
Why Boundaries Matter During Transitions
Protecting your energy: Life changes can be draining. Boundaries ensure you don’t give away more than you can sustain.
Maintaining emotional safety: They help you carry your own challenges without absorbing everyone else’s.
Creating healthier relationships: Clear limits prevent resentment and allow mutual respect to grow.
Honouring your evolving values: As you step into a new chapter, boundaries keep you aligned with the woman you are becoming.
Misconceptions About Boundaries
They’re not selfish: Boundaries are acts of self-care, not self-centredness.
They’re not walls: They are flexible and can grow as you grow.
They don’t push people away: Instead, they nurture relationships built on respect, understanding, and balance.
How to Begin Setting Boundaries (With Compassion)
Know your limits – Notice what feels heavy, draining, or out of alignment.
Communicate clearly – Use calm, respectful language (“I need some quiet time this evening” instead of over-explaining).
Start small – Practice in low-pressure situations to build confidence.
Stay consistent – Hold your boundaries with kindness but firmness.
Respect others’ boundaries too – Healthy connections are reciprocal.
✨ Remember: Boundaries are not about closing doors; they’re about opening the right ones—for you, at this stage in your journey. They are an invitation to honour your growth, protect your energy, and step into your next chapter with strength and clarity.
